tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5868168967202340582024-02-19T17:12:57.390-08:00Sense & SensualityEducation and Discussion on D/s, BDSM,
Sensuality, Sexuality, Erotica
and RelationshipsRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-22485253968934348182009-07-17T20:14:00.000-07:002009-07-17T20:21:09.768-07:00Transfer of 360 Blog to this sitemy apologies for the order in which these blogs appear. They have been transferred from THE Blonde: blonderaven's yahoo blog site as a result of yahoo closing 360.The tags on the right side of the blog should help identify blog articles of interest to you.warm regardsblonderavenRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-81429294407578628192009-06-21T07:30:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:35:27.157-07:00sub-Zone, sub-Drop: Hitting the Wall or Crash & Burn! This post is reproduced from Wicked's blog with His permission. i have reposted it it as it appears to have inadvertently been deleted and i am aware that Dom and Sub zones and drops are of interest to many of Y/you at the moment. i urge Y/you to visit Wicked's page, settled down and prepare Y/yourselves for a good read. Important points have been highlighted in red and my Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-34003456161087562292009-06-21T07:25:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:30:55.453-07:00The Sub-Zone: Hitting the WallThe Sub-Zone: Hitting the Wall The Sub-Zone Part #1 In recent days i have been asked by some non-D/s friends to explain the sub-zone. In my next post i will discuss the sub-zone as i have experienced it over the years. Although naturally i will provide some outline of the chemical changes that occur, i can really only speak from my own experience but i am Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-16767568587631129562009-06-21T07:23:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:25:01.528-07:00FREE SPEECHFREE SPEECH "Everybody is in favor of free speech.Hardly a day passes without its being extolled,but some people's idea of it is thatthey are free to say what they like,but if anyone says anything back,that is an outrage." Sir Winston ChurchillSpeech, House of Commons, 1943 Tags: thoughtson:freespeech1 Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-64926094451585229982009-06-21T07:20:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:22:57.480-07:00Intimacy, Alter- Egos and Informed Consent One of the issues that continues to be raised is that of security and safety online. This does not only refer to physical security ..but if one is embarking on an online relationship of a more intimate and potentially long-standing nature, emotional safety and security is paramount.Note: This post does not refer here to mutual masturbatory, fantasy or cyber ' role play gamesRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-39072890541766609492009-06-21T07:15:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:19:55.754-07:00Erotica vs Porn: Histoire d'OThe story of O illustrates the choices that were taken by O at every point. The choice to subjugate her will to another. The choice to perform actions and suffer indignities that to many would be unthinkably brutal and in some instances inhuman but which were less than her overwhelming, natural desire to be submissive.The pleasure principal O became conditioned to over time was used to Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-51049000771783852742009-06-21T07:09:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:14:58.982-07:00Erotica: Les Liaisons DangereusesMany years ago i saw the most wonderful play.. Les Liaisons dangereuses ... based on the novel by Choderlos de Laclos.There have been four movie versions of this:. Dangerous Liaisons, Cruel Intentions, Valmont and Les Liaisons dangereuses.This piece of script from the play pretty well describes the story: "To seduce a woman famous for strict morals, religious fervour and the happiness of herRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-23891827853488401872009-06-21T07:05:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:09:10.787-07:00The Nose Has A Clitoris??!!! The Nose Has A Clitoris? Well now that i have Y/your complete attention... let U/us continue: Hot on the heels of Darwin's observations of comparable external naso-genital observations, American Surgeon John McKenzie concluded from his studies of the upper and nether regions of the human anatomy, that the olfactory mucosae, line and slits were composed of erectile tissue Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-82549809150158293372009-06-21T07:03:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:05:14.970-07:00Sexology 101facets: Sexology 101 As an undergraduate reading Social Work at Uni, each semester required the selection of two elective subjects. There was no way i was going to ignore Sexology 101 (modelled on the steam at Syracuse University NY). The subject itself is fascinating - to the extent that i continued studying this stream to the post-graduate level and was included in the evening Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-726014996753950992009-06-21T06:58:00.000-07:002009-06-21T07:03:15.843-07:00Sex Ed: Paraphilia: SitophiliaSex Education #1: Sitophilia Some paraphilias will look like fun. Others may quite put Y/you off Y/your lunch....*smiles*.. and speaking of lunch... *opens the menu and points*..may i recommend today's special...:Every now and again.. when the mood strikes me, i will be outlining some of the paraphilia's. i know this will be of great interest to my F/fellow paraphiliacs out there. *Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-30740068452078148292009-06-21T06:51:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:56:55.559-07:00Porn vs Erotica Several years ago this movie came into a colleague's in-tray. She was on the film classification panel.The beauty of the cinematography and the skill of the storyline was undeniable. But there was something not quite 'right' from a readily identifiable classification perspective.The film, 9 1/2 Weeks was presented to a Sexology Society Association meeting for evaluation. The response from Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-88910874238508029152009-06-21T06:43:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:51:20.469-07:00Virtual SupportThoughts on Support It's wonderful taking an amble through this online social networking world catching up on the news.. both good and not so good. All on the spectrum of feelings from A-Z are represented here as real lives are shared in all of their texture.It's strange how O/one can wake up in the morning and yet by doing nothing but sleep, things can change; health, relationships,Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-57069074278587413752009-06-21T06:41:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:43:55.465-07:00Negotiation in D/s: The Beginning Phase.. What is It? i was asked recently to explain what was meant by 'negotiations' in terms of a D/s relationship. In addition to referring Y/you to Aragorn and my previous blogs on this, i'll see if i can explain further. It may be important to note that this relates to a real time/offline circumstance, but is easily adopted for online. i will begin by possibly offending some P/peopleRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-43843710573870193192009-06-21T06:38:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:41:27.233-07:00Online Relationships: Romance: nothing can substitute for real face time.nothing can substitute for real face time. Can Our Love Go the Distance? By Male Call MercuryNews.com Updated: Jul 12, 2007 Question: Can a long-distance relationship work? I am 53 and recently met a lovely woman, 44. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and she lives in Southern California. We have been enjoying emailing and phoning each other, and I will Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-71702925666224706582009-06-21T06:32:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:37:37.289-07:00Male & female Friendships Further on cross-gender friendships.. the jury is no longer out on the subject, but there are some clear generational differences in perception.Today's generation is more clannish in nature as young males and females 'travel' through life as a mixed gender group without necessarily having romantic entanglements. Close inter-gender friendships satellite out from the main group and there is a Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-82149079079764760842009-06-21T06:20:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:28:21.485-07:00Taken In Hand: Redux and IntroIs he dominant, domineering or a dithering wimp? While i am in the process of writing the second in a series of articles i have planned on D/s relationship i thought you might find this of interest. Consider it an 'ad break'..*lol... This article is reprinted in part from 'Taken in Hand'(by Sarah Cavendish: http://www.takeninhand.com/node/116). I think THIS article in Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-62179592173405108972009-06-21T06:16:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:20:20.927-07:00D/s Relationships: Blancmange or Alpha? The D/s Relationship.. some thoughts.. If Y/you are exploring D/s and haven’t yet read Loving Dominant by John Warren, I respectfully suggest Y/you consider doing so. There are many great books and articles on D/s, but this book is a particularly good start. A good question posed is: Do You want an easy relationshipwith you as the unquestioned boss? Warren states Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-39568154146147188562009-06-21T06:10:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:15:17.420-07:00He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom, but is he really a Dom?He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom,but is he really a Dom? '... emotional, financial, or personal stability, the things that in my opinion establish a foundation for someone to control another person ...' (Sensuous Sadie) Discussion and thoughts to consider from DomSubFriends Society He Looks like a Dom and Quacks like a Dom, but is he really a Dom? By Sensuous SadieRaphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-85964162744214756702009-06-21T06:04:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:10:08.920-07:00Online Safety: Slavemaster: A Cautionary TaleSlavemaster: A Cautionary Tale The Internet and chat rooms provide a relatively safe place for people to explore, in a non-physical way, various aspects of sexuality and fantasy; the ultimate form of safe sex... no condoms required. Within the apparent safety of this medium, relationships are forged. Chat rooms are like 'neighbourhoods' and like a neighbourhood community, a Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-15674188397990352332009-06-21T05:57:00.000-07:002009-06-21T06:04:25.771-07:00D/s: Don'ts for DomsMars & Obscure Dreams (work in progress) During the recent .. *coughs delicately* .. discussions in relation to Dom vs dom behaviours. I had the opportunity to meet and talk with a number of Doms about the issues raised. A side benefit has been the opportunity to read and listen to some of Mars' work. Articulate and witty i have particularly enjoyed one of Mars' recent 'in Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-74754854345461055202009-06-21T05:54:00.000-07:002009-06-21T05:57:07.830-07:00D/s HUmour: You're not an Experienced Dom/me if... You're not an Experienced Dom/me if: ...you think that a "crop" is this autumn's wheat harvest....you think a sub needs lettuce, tomato and pickles....you think your sub can stay underwater for weeks....you think that "edge play" is spitting over the side of a bridge. ...you think "Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-67278267716356517772009-06-21T05:52:00.000-07:002009-06-21T05:54:41.507-07:00D/s E-zines #1: The DominantD/s E-zines #1: The Dominant http://www.thedominantmagazine.com i love reading and researching, particularly in the D/s and BDSM areas. Prior to entering my recent profession, i utilised my Social Work degree and Post-Graduate studies and clinical work in sex therapy in the areas of paraphilias, gender identification/ reassignment and child sexual abuse. Ironically (or perhaps Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-75877443766262159542009-06-21T05:50:00.000-07:002009-06-21T05:52:48.892-07:00sub-zone Aftercare: The A-E for Online Doms and subs!(repost) IMPORTANT: sub-zone Aftercare for Doms and subs!WOW....*grins*...there's a few good zones happening out there... that's GREAT! On a more serious not though, there are also a few drops and crashes happening ...and this would be a bad thing ... REPEAT AFTER me.... ..." A BAD THING" ... There is almost inevitably a crash or drop at some point, for one of Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-76030084948849713352009-06-21T05:48:00.000-07:002009-06-21T05:50:31.811-07:00Open letter from a Masochist to A Feminist An Open Letter from a Masochist to A Feminist by Cecilia Tan* Well, I understand you are worried about me now that you know I'm a woman into SM. You want to keep me from becoming a victim of violence and psychological damage. But let me assure you, my involvment in SM has made me less susceptible to violence and damage, not more. SM has taught me valuable things Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-586816896720234058.post-42407669323287115282009-06-21T05:45:00.000-07:002009-06-21T05:48:10.062-07:00On Topping, Bottoming & Scening On " Topping, Bottoming & Scening," I take this phrase from a self-professed dom's (spd) blog: "If you have to proclaim to the world, either verbally, physically or in written word that you are something, chances are you're probably not that something". I have read sfpd's blogs from beginning to end and after careful analysis of the material and proclamations Raphaellahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01302914110652900368noreply@blogger.com0