D/s: The Dominant or Red Zone: Domspace

THE DOM ZONE or DOM SPACE

In an earlier blog i spoke of the sub-zone and it was with grateful thanks to Master Wicked that i was permitted to reproduce His excellent article on this topic. Before i venture further into that area it seems appropriate, for the sake of balance to touch briefly on the Dom Zone or Dom Space as it is sometimes referred, and in particular, the dangers of Primal Space.


Many have heard of and experienced the sub-zone, but are unaware of the tremendous discipline required by the Dom especially during the intense psycho-sexual interactions between Dom and His submissive. It is all too simple for the Dom to also enter a state of altered consciousness and should He give Himself entirely over to this state it may well result in increased risk to the submissive.


The Dom is expected to be watchful and take all care during all interactions with His submissive, however, the mind is a curious thing and in the same way that the Dom can trigger His submissive in to sub-space..and take her higher and deeper, so can the Dom himself be triggered. When those on switches are triggered for both parties, things can and sometimes do get a little 'messy'. So, what is Dom Space?


The English Roissy (ER) is an educational BDSM organisation that teaches proper methods, techniques and protocols of ' old-school' BDSM. Please note, this is NOT referring to Old Guard Leather or Gay culture, but rather historically based European BDSM protocols, customs and practices. It is the culture with which i most identify. ER describes Dom Space as follows:

When a Dominant is in normal space there is often a sensation of being in neutral or coasting. The person will function, deal with issues, handle problems and go about the mundane things of their daily life. If something occurs to trigger the Dominant then the Dominant will alter or shift. This is a transition from top space to ON.

At this stage the Dominant will become more alert and anything which is not involved in what has triggered their attention will be set aside or discarded. If nothing further occurs the Dominant will often revert to their normal space and resume whatever tasks they were engaged in. The sensations of being ON will vanish with the same speed with which they emerged.

If a Dominant is triggered ON and the stimuli continues for a period of time then that Dominant will progress past the sort of early watchful stage to one of FULLY ON or UP.

In this stage a Dominant will often feel an upswing of energy. They are actively prepared to react or respond quite literally to anything.

They may find themselves almost hyper-active from this sudden energy boost and at times they will scramble mentally to adjust to what feels like a presence settling over and through them.

They will note that their perceptions alter, vision acuity will often tighten, hearing will intensify, adrenaline will flow through them offering a rush of sudden strength. There is a sensation of increased awareness. Detail will often magnify.

If a situation has been initiated then the Dominant will often note a sensation of alert mental detachment. This is a separation of their normal emotional responses to everything that is around them.

Some Dominants will also note a sensation of energy flow, this appears or sometimes feels like it is emanating from the submissive - with some Dominants there will be the distinct feeling that they are INSIDE of the submissive. A part of the Dominant will experience the situation from within the submissive perspective. Some Dominants will report hearing the mind of their submissive.

There is often a sensation of accelerating excitement, these sensations may be so intense as to produce a physical quiver in the body. A differing set of responses will often seem to replace those they would consider to be normal. These responses are often keyed directly TO the person or situation they are involved in.

The emotional detachment and altered responses allow the Dominant to take actions or play with their submissive in ways they would have difficulty with in normal space. It is important to note here that excitement and the attached levels of danger pump chemicals into the Dominant's blood stream.

The further down that the submissive goes in scene, the further UP the Dominant goes.

The submissives responses to the Dominants actions trigger and re-trigger the Dominant. The Dominant in turn does more and the escalating spiralling cycle of energy exchange begins to spin. This energy is as euphoric for the Dominant as it is for the submissive with one PROFOUND difference, part of the intensity that the Dominant feels is because of the mental compression necessary to maintain tight physical and mental control throughout.

DANGER ZONE:

There is a final space that some Dominants occasionally reach. Primal space.

When this occurs a mental threshold is breached. Some Dominants equate this space to Blood Lust.

If a Dominant reaches this space they become dangerous.

They may become pumped up with chemistries which muddle their ability to maintain clear thought. If they are a new Dominant they may have reached this space by allowing the submissive to 'push' them by being asked for MORE!

Some Dominants will discover a level of personal cruelty within themselves that they never imagined existed.

ANY Dominant noting TOTAL detachment within themselves from the welfare of the submissive they are with should IMMEDIATELY recognize that they have gone too far and exit the situation. Even a momentary step aside can bring a Dominant OUT of this danger zone. From that point forward the Dominant should work toward ending the situation as quickly as possible to prevent a recurrence of entry into that space.

Afterwards both the Dominant and the submissive will need aftercare. The need for intense bonding is common as is the desire for immediate sexual release. Many couples enjoy wrapping themselves around each other and coming 'down' together. There is simple safety in this type of intimate contact. Expect to feel energy depleted or energy enervated for a period of time until your body adjusts and returns you to a more normal state.

*http://myweb.tiscali.co.uk/englishroissy/dominant_space.htm

** i tend to avoid the word 'scene' or 'scening' as for me it conjures up the idea of playing a role or a part, as though it is a contrived activity and not a true and holistic experience but rather a scene, or picture being set. The word makes me think of some kind of 'club' activity. To me the word 'scene' falls short of describing the intense, total and 'in-the-now' interactions that are occuring between the Dom and His submissive.

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Sunday November 19, 2006 - 11:59pm (EST)

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