Sunday, June 21, 2009

Safety: When Online Goes Real World: Safe Calls and Cautions

Safecall Service for Offline Meetings: IMPORTANT

Safecall Service for Offline Meetings: IMPORTANT magnify
A while back Leatherneck suggested a Lit-based safe call or çhaperone' support for P/people planning on meeting offline. Other suggestions had been to locate different D/s groups in the area of the meeting to arrange a safe venue, perhaps a munch to conduct the first meeting. Here is a Yahoo Group Service that i think may be useful to consider. I have taken the details straight from the group's front page and the URL is included.

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Safecall · National Safecall List
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/safecall/


Important Information: Consider Joining This Group to Reduce Risk to Y/yourself & O/others









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What is a safecall? :




Often people are so excited about the prospect of meeting that they forget about safety. It is up to you to take the precautionary steps in maintaining your safety.

It is a contact between two people to let someone know who you are going to be with and where you are going and a code phrase if the person needs help.

Many new relationships are started on the internet. A safecall is one way to help keep a person safe. A safecall consists of several things. It can consist of several phone calls made at a prearranged time to having someone else check out the person you are going to meet's credentials and references. The contacts that will be made between the person who is doing thesafecalling and the person tho is meeting someone for the first or second time varies with each individual. It is not to be relied solely as protection.

Common sense must prevail. If there are any "red flags" when talking to a person online or on the phone, the meeting should be cancelled or delayed until you are comfortable. If you are with them and you begin to feel uneasy, you should end the meeting. Sometimes a person may not be who they claim to be online.

Some red flags to consider:


  • Not wanting to give their information to you
  • Wanting to change locations shortly before the meeting,
  • which could change the information you’ve given to your safecaller
  • Becoming annoyed that you don’t “trust them” and have a safety call set up.

There are many others.


If you are in the process of meeting someone, check out our file section for the state where the meeting will be held. If you can spare a few hours of time to help someone out occasionally, then please add a file to the state folder with your general location and a contact email address. If you know when you are available, please mention days and times.




Let's all help one another stay safe in a chaotic world.
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Thank you for posting this...This is the sort of thing I had in mind right from thevery get go...Isnt it funny how others how migt have felt threatened or the like made it out to be about a bunch of cool kids passing judgements on others. shajes head but often it is a waste of breath to try to explain especially when *makes the sarcastic finger quotes motion* raped women are becoming personally responsible and accountable for their attackers actions. Ohhh well thanks again for postng this *coughs* seems to make sense and maybe just maybe since it came from your page cited as a source idea from yahoo and not from me then there wont be any tiny penis syndrome floating about and folks can actually take up that mantle of *makes the sarcastic finger quotes motion again* personal accountability for the protection and safety of others.

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 06:03am (EDT) Remove Comment

In the past four years there have been aound a half dozen 'first meetings' with ladies I met online. So I know all about the 'Oh, I know him well enough to not worry for my safety' line of thinking. In the end, maybe one of these ladies took precautions anyway near what she ought to have, and even that one was iffy. I'm still on a friendly basis with most of these women, and it gives me total fits when I think of these women placing themselves in that same situation again with unknowns.

*eyes the above post* What exactly do you mean by putting quotes around the word "Raped"? And How and why, exactly, do you suggest women consider themselves responsible for their attackers actions? I'm giving a big benefit of the doubt here, and assuming you mean responsible for their own safety... which in the end is a hard thing to do with a degree of certanty in all situations. And what exactly does anyones tiny penis have to do with women's safety?

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 06:27am (EDT) Remove Comment

*waves* at Hrafnel ....i think Leather was referring to P/people who have discounted His recent ideas for safety in first meetings and in particular, providing safety for subs.. He was referring to some of the comments people had made to Him..(hence the inverted commas.. quotes of others) i suspect You are Both coming from the same direction.

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 09:00pm (EST) Remove Comment

*smiles* Fair enough. I realise I'm coming into this exchange late and there are things I likely missed. And I try to admit when I'm more fiery or aggressive or confrontational than is merited. I guess it's that whole alpha thing. It's a nuisance, really. So my apologies for the tension.

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 07:18am (EDT) Remove Comment

thank you sister for this blog!! i like the idea very much.. i've always told friends that they need to let others know when they are meeting someone new face to face for first time, just for their own safety ... tell them that just because who ever seems so ideal here online that it could all be a ruse for serious trouble.. i personally dont know how some can just talk it up a week then meet, i havent met anyone from online face to face in all my years here yet.. a few i was to meet and they backed out after talking for a long time with them.. heartbreaking to say the least.. i need to know someone well before i can hop into bed or hand the whip so to speak over.. sometimes what you hear or read isnt what you get .. face to face public place .. so many thoughts on this because i am coming upon a first meeting with Master ... will take thoughts private and send to you later this weekend sis ... have a wonderful Holiday with yours my beautiful sister ..~much love, respect and adoration~~warm hugs n kisses~ belle

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 06:29am (CDT) Remove Comment

great post Blonde..
one comment I'd like to make, though. As you are aware, many abusive characteristics aren't shown at first, second or even third meetings. Anyone can be sweet, charming and disarming until the woman is lulled into security. Look at the number of abusive relationships where to the "community" the man is an upstanding all around good guy.

No, I couldn't imagine a first meeting without a "safety" call. I've done it off-line with first dates with men I've met casually..In the end, that didn't protect me from my stalker.

Important to remember to do these things though. Keep the message going

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 07:54am (EDT) Remove Comment

This is a great post. Thank you.

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 09:44am (PDT) Remove Comment

As I ignore a posters obvious attempts to save face, I shall stand by My original convictions, and opinion. Awareness, Knowledge, Common Sense. The first and best line of defense.

I did post a blog and listed My concerns. They were not against remaining safe. I strongly advocate safety, and I do, and shall continue to freely offer up any personal information to those that NEED to be informed of it. I stood, and do continue My stand against a "panel".

As always, raven. A good posting from you when it comes to the lifestyle.

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 12:32pm (CDT) Remove Comment

chuckles I guess it all comes down to actions speak louder than words...is sds willing to step up and offer more that words in helping to protect others should they find themselves in a situation that isnt safe sane or consentual?? Or maybe you would offer "advice" and smart ass comments to her on the best way to save her ass much less saving face?? yeah I bet that would work really well...cuckles shaking head...

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 04:20pm (EDT) Remove Comment

Thanks for posting this, much love for ya

Saturday April 7, 2007 - 03:39pm (CDT) Remove Comment

well the service has been going since March 2003 and seems like a good back up for P/people who may not have someone they feel comfortable asking to do this..

Sunday April 8, 2007 - 09:08pm (EST)
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